A reason, a season, or a lifetime

Last week I was talking to my colleagues about my son’s preschool and the conversation trailed to our own preschool, and suddenly it turned out that one of my colleague was… my classmate in kindergarten!!! Can you believe it? We have been working together for almost a year, occasionally have lunches together and do not recognize each other!!! Hahaha so irony!

Trying to recall the memory lane, apparently both of us only remembered one classmate’s name each; namely our best friend back then. It’s the best friend that you line up with, sit next to, and basically do everything together. Seriously, both of us can’t recall any other names (except of this one fat cute boy hahaha). Then we search back the class photo and manage to recall a few other names, although the memories quite vague.

This makes me conclude that back then you usually have only one best friend, or two. Then when you are in primary school, you have a circle of friends. Of coz high school was all about popularity, being in the ‘group’. In college, the circle got wider and more diverse. The more friends you have in facebook (or back then friendster), the more excited you were. (I can’t remember why anymore as I have past that phase).

Then enter working life. Your so called-friends mainly revolve around your colleagues as you meet and have lunch with them almost everyday. Nevertheless efforts to have colleagues as friends don’t always work out. For professional reasons, there are better to remain as colleagues. So looks like the number of friends have normal curve shape (bell shape). It peaked in the teen and then again subsides.

Well…you promise to be ‘friends forever’ or ‘keep in touch’ with everyone, but as you gets older, you will only keep in touch with a handful of them. In my case, I can say I still keep in touch with roughly 10% of them (oh I’m so not happening!). Keep in touch meaning you actually talk or at least sms, not just virtually via fb status.

Then there’s also this ‘un’friend concept, also introduced by facebook haha… I guess when you get older, you don’t like crowd that much and un’friend’ those whom no longer there for you, physically or emotionally. In contrast, some disconnect themselves from social network due to personal reasons such as yet-to-marry, yet-to-get 1st baby, post-partum depression, etc. I understand the world now is a hard place to live so to have the social network add to pressures can be a heavy burden.

There were also friends who talk behind your back, and those who you haven’t meet for many years but can still click over a coffee session. This reminded me a quote I read somewhere saying there are friends for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. I realised that I have friends from all the three categories and I thanked Allah for giving me chance to enjoy such beautiful friendships with so many colorful people in my life.

To my friends,
Although in future I might loss memories of some names (I hope not!), I really cherish our friendship.
I believe you have made me to be a better person.
Forgive me for any wrongdoings, believe me it’s unintentional.
Thank you for the friendship. If I can turn back time, you will still be my friend:).


highlight of the day

Have not been blogging for far too long!!!

I wanted to about 2 weeks ago but keep on postponing sampai cerita pun dah lapuk haha…apparently quiet busy lately at both home and office. Well takde lah busy macam orang lain, just busier than before.

Now that we have officially start to send AE to preschool (effective October), I did not have chance to meet him in the morning. Coz my office hour starts at 8am, the dad will send him everyday instead. So to counter the lost credit hours, I will leave office sharp everyday so I can pick him early. That means all my office works have to be completed about one hour earlier than normal. Well it taught me to be more efficient at work though so no complaint.

Plus remember earlier I blog about AE sometimes have tantrum. I realised now that I pick him up earlier things have been smoother. There were no more tantrum alhamdulilah. (okay really need to be careful with the choice of words or else it’s going to be jinxed again haha). But maybe the tantrum has now past since he is bigger; approaching 3rd birthday soon. 3-year old! So fast!!!

He says new sentences every day, new discovery every day, and surprises me every day sometimes I’m not able to catch up and write it down anymore. I hate that coz previously I always write every new things he accomplished so that when I’m old (insyaAllah kalau panjang umur) I will read the wonderful memories of watching a child grow.

Anyway now that AE is going to be 35 months, he’s so into dinosaurs and dragon. I think it all started with the “How to Train Your Dragon” movie. I realised AE don’t really like to watch Cartoon Network etc. His movie trail started with Finding Nemo (we watched that for months!), then Madagascar 1, Madagascar 2, Shrek 1, Shrek 2, Shrek 3, Shrek 4, How to Train Your Dragon, Ratatouille, Ice Age 3, and now Monster Inc. Quiet a Pixar boy huh:). Sometimes, he still watches the baby Einstein collection and nursery rhymes in youtube and he will say “Nie Ashman suka masa small” :).

AE will also now say cute things like “Kan mummy kata”, mimicking me or “kacaulah Ashman”, telling me to tickle him.

Other than tv & Iphone, AE now into puzzles, trains and pillow fights. We will pretend we are dinosaurs (or dragon) attacking the big dinosaur (daddy) hahaha… He loves to dance to all kind of music, although he is still a shy boy if surrounded by many people.

Food wise, AE now love soup, noodles, fish, sate, cekodok and chocolate cake. I am not a kuih-lover, but for him, I did my best to fry cekodok for the first time ever in my life:). Unconditional love huh. Maybe next time I’ll try to bake a chocolate cake;).

Ashman Ehsan,
I look forward to hug and kiss you everyday.
To play and laugh with you.
To cuddle with you till sleep.
You are simply the highlight of my day, everyday.

my highlight